How is the American man manipulative and selfish in "Hills Like White Elephants"?

Much of “Hills Like White Elephants” consists of dialogue between the man and the woman. What makes this particularly remarkable is that the woman repeatedly insists that she does not want to talk to the man—she eventually goes so far as to ask him if he would “please please please please please please please stop talking?” But the man persists, ignoring her needs as he often does in the story.

Throughout the story, the man...

Much of “Hills Like White Elephants” consists of dialogue between the man and the woman. What makes this particularly remarkable is that the woman repeatedly insists that she does not want to talk to the man—she eventually goes so far as to ask him if he would “please please please please please please please stop talking?” But the man persists, ignoring her needs as he often does in the story.

Throughout the story, the man only has one objective, which is to persuade the woman to agree to an abortion (although this is never explicitly stated, it is strongly implied). When, in the opening moments of the story, she tries to discuss the scenery, he is withdrawn and refuses to engage. He ignores what is interesting to her and pushes the conversation to a topic that she does not want to discuss. What makes this behavior even more selfish and manipulative is that he first frames it around her desire and their wellbeing as a couple:

If you don't want to you don't have to. I wouldn't have you do it if you didn't want to. But I know it's perfectly simple.

Later, the man switches tactics, trying to draw sympathy as the victim of the situation, telling her that it will help him to stop worrying if she will follow through and have the procedure. His behavior focuses on his needs to the point where he ignores even her most basic request: for silence.